This episode hit closer to home than others for a few reasons. Not only is Aleeza an olah (immigrant to Israel), but she is also a fellow alum of the University of Pittsburgh (Go Pitt!), was active at the campus Hillel, and became religious in her mid-20s.
There was a lot that I was curious to ask her about, but I wanted to make sure that we focused on similarities and differences between Israel and the rest of the world in terms of dating and relationships. The interview covered a lot of ground and Aleeza shared about her experience as a matchmaker, the important parts of any relationship, a bit about the Netflix show that brought her fame (Jewish Matchmaking), and what being Israeli means to her.
We spoke about the show and how she made it a point to project non-judgment and acceptance, which aren’t the same thing. That is also in the episode. If you haven’t watched it, I would highly recommend it as it brings in a wide range of Jewish singles from various religious backgrounds. One might go in thinking that an Orthodox matchmaker might not have much to say to a Jew from a diverse background, but Aleeza really hears each of the people in the show and works to understand who could be a good match for them.
After worrying about the image the show would project about the Jewish community, I was quite impressed and delighted. Somehow it achieved a positive message and Aleeza was able to shine a positive light on her own observant lifestyle.
She was able to impart Jewish wisdom in a relatable way that didn’t come off as preachy. She is unapologetic about her own religious lifestyle, but she is accessible and able to find common ground with people from all backgrounds.
I don't wish to give too much away with the hope that you will listen and draw your own conclusions. Give it a listen!
Aleeza's upcoming book can be found here.
Song of the Week
Dreamer
This week’s music choice is unique in that it is in English. theAngelcy has a few songs in Hebrew, but they have gained their fans mostly through English. Attending their concert on Tuesday showed just how many Israeli fans they have singing along in English.
This band is one to look into with their unique alternative folk rock combination. It’s mostly calming, but the lyrics can be a bit jarring. They’re a really treat and those who don’t understand Hebrew can get the full experience of an Israeli band.
Dreamer is one of their most popular songs and it is a solid first taste of the band’s sound.
Slang of the Week
בלתי
Bill-tee
I can’t even (short for בלתי נסבל / bill-tee nees-ball / insufferable)
This one is a fun one that I haven’t heard in public just yet, but my ears are peeled for it.
S1E10: Matchmaker's Guide to the Galaxy w/ Aleeza Ben Shalom